Meeting Girls Is Easier Than You Think

If you’re a guy, you’re looking for a girl, that’s simply the way it is.  Doesn’t make us pigs, just makes us human.  The emotions run deep and when love grabs hold, everything else quickly takes a back seat.  There’s a line is some old song that says... “I would do for love... what I would not do”.  Basically that mean that all rhyme and reason are thrown out the window and we are living to “win the girl”.

Based on that, here are few tips to get you past the front door, or to state it different to first base.  After that, we’ll that’s going to take another article or two (or a bunch).

Based on national surveys most of want to marry one day, it’s what makes the world go around and ensures the next generation will be continue.  Finding that perfect someone requires dating, and while I believe in romance and chemistry, I also believe in being prepared.  And while dating is a (usually) a requirement to find love, that doesn’t mean the process is easy, not by a long shot.  If you want to “get the girl” finding the right strategy is something that you have to find and in doing so, overcome your fears of rejection.  Getting shot down is simply part of the process.

Ready!  Dream of that perfect someone and to get her here are a few tips to help you along the way.

1. Learn to make that first impression with a winning personality.

It’s not a guess, it a fact that girls will look at a guy’s personality.  Sure they want buff and all the rest, but they want someone who can sparkle and get their heart beating.  Sure girls will say that looks aren’t that important but personality is.  What makes up a personality?  Well of course all of us are born with certain attributes but we can work to enhance others.  We can learn to have confidence, a good sense of humor, to carry ourselves with inner strength.  You’re sure to have areas that need improvement, so work to improve them.

2. I had a good friend (hard rock drummer) who was the definition of cool.

For me it’s a bit more difficult, but one thing he taught me... NEVER act desperate.  Sure she may be the hottest babe in the room, but don’t let her know that you think so.  You’ll want to seem interest, but you don’t want to give the impression that you have to have her and have her right now.  Be cool, slightly detached.  Hey it worked for my drummer friend; he always has a lovely on his arm.

3. Don’t be afraid of getting shot down (rejected).

None of us guys like to have our egos tramped on, but it comes with the territory and sooner or later, you’ll get rejected.  Take it in stride, you’ve heard the expression there are plenty of fish I the sea, we’ll it true, there are countless girl out there waiting for YOU.  We all have high expectations, but along with that come the fact that some of the girl we want, want us, get over it and move on.
Now then, if a girl says no... it might mean yes, so even if you get the feeling of rejection, I’m not telling you to quit.  Use that personality and coolness we talked about.  And if she actually shoots you down, then think on the “why”.  Maybe she’s not interested; maybe she’s got a boy friend.  If she’s not in to you, then accept it, learn from it, and keep looking.

4. Don’t take it personal.

When you’re in business, you’ll hear the expression, “It’s nothing personal, just business”.  The same is true here, if that hot babe moving to the beat says no, maybe she mean “No, not right now, but maybe later”.  That will come with experience, but never take it personally, girls get hit on all the time, we’re guys and if you’re interested, you can bet your bottom dollar that others are too.

5. This is like the cool thing, but we’re calling it casual.

You want to “get with her”, “hook up”, whatever you want to call it, but don’t jump her bones on the first date, be casual, cool, listen to what she has to say.  Make the date unconventional and not overly romantic.  Be interesting and leave her wanting more.  The idea here is to listen... yep LISTEN to what she has to say, be interested in her and have a good time.  Landing her in the sack on the first date might happen, but it’s not the norm.

Take a step back, not literally but emotionally, be interested, but not needy.  Listen, but don’t stare (and if you do, keep it above the neck).  Make her comfortable, but don’t be too nice.  Be strong, but also compassionate.  Be compassionate, but don’t take it to extremes.

Girls are complex creatures, but then so are we and we will get the girl, but it might not be the first time we ask, and it might not be the first girl we ask.