Should You Compliment a Girl on The First Date?

“Wow you’re beautiful!”

Do you think that will get her attention?  Wrong!  She’d heard it a million times and all you’re going to accomplish by saying that is to lump yourself in with all the other average Joes, and that is not what you want to do.

The big question... Do you want to be upfront and say... (in better words of course) “I want to jump your bones”, or should you be more subtle, telling her I’m only looking for a friend?  Two widely opposing view points, but in most cases (there are exceptions) telling her you simply want to be friends will have her hopping into to bed quicker and with more passion.  Now then why?

Women (ah we love ‘em) are  complex creatures and if ever there was truth the statement, “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover”, it is true when a woman looks at you.  Women, girls, babes, whatever are used to being hit on and they aren’t going to take what you say as gospel, there are going to look for the underlying motive.  So when you look deep into her eyes and say... “You’re one beautiful woman”, what do you imagine she’s saying?  Is it “Wow, he really appreciates me” or is it more likely... “Yeah right, he just wants to get in my pants”.

On the flip, if you’re not all that interested in her looks and simply tell here that your interest is friendship, it might very well work in your favor (you devious devil).  There’s a lot going on and when you say this, she’s going to wonder... “Well maybe he’s not attracted to me”.  Or perhaps... “He’s sure not like all the other guys who say I’m beautiful but really want to get in my pants”.  In other words you’re using a bit of reverse psychology and getting her moving in the direction of... “I’ve got to PROVE I’m beautiful and desirable”.  Now when she does that, then you’re home free (well maybe just the cost of a drink or two).

We’ve probably all heard that women like “bad boys”, and maybe or maybe not as husbands, but that’s another article.  You might be the sweet and sensitive type, just dying to pay her a compliment, but guys... STEP BACK.

She’s heard it before... stop the compliments already.

You don’t have to be mean, but dripping with sweetness isn’t going to work either.

You need to be a man, “cowboy up” be strong, be the hero, not the sweet and sensitive type, that can come later, let her discover the sensitive side slowly, DO NOT lay your “sweet and sensitive” cards on the table, if you do, that “lets be friends line” will be coming from her to you.

Here’s why... remember your mom saying... “If everyone else is jumping off the bridge... are you going to follow”?  This said when you wanted to bend to peer pressure... “Mom, everyone else is doing it”.
Here’s is where you want to be a leader, not a follower, all the other guys are going to be saying... “Wow, you’re beautiful”, don’t lump yourself into that crowd.  When you do, not only will you fade into the woodwork, but you’ll get a reputation as being boring and fake.

Women are born to follow a man, that’s in their genetics.  Now that may seem sexist and on the surface maybe it is, but it doesn’t matter how far we’ve come as a society, we still have our roots in the fact that women need a man who will go out and kill something and drag it home.  They need someone strong who can hold things together; maybe they don’t even realize it, but they do... Truth guys, you heard it here first.

You don’t have to be an insensitive jerk, but you don’t need to be a limp lizard either, man up.