Finding Miss Right on The Elevator Whats A Guy To Do

We’re the predator; they’re the prey, right? While that may be true, it’s not something we’re going to broadcast, and especially not if we’re riding together in an elevator.

Scenario: You walk into an elevator and there she is, a drop-dead gorgeous babe. What do you do?

1. Pant and drool.
2. Smile and compliment her briefly on what she’s wearing.

Think quick, you only have scant moments to make an impression and if you do the “pant and drool” pitch, you probably WILL NOT get a second chance. So here’s how I play it.

First, I try to be prepared for the situation, I’m looking and feeling good, maybe have a smile on, life is good and I want to radiate charm but not go overboard.

The elevator dings and I walk in, only to spot a breath taking brunette with all the right assets. Brain acts as expected and the loins stir, but I keep things in check, smile and take my place inside. The ride begins and I notice she is wearing a very attractive scarf. I don’t stare (her spider sense will quickly say… “What’s this guy’s problem”) instead I’ll simply pay her a brief compliment while making eye contact. Knowing the ride will end quickly, I have no plans to make a more advanced move, we’ll save that for another ride; what I’m after here is simply establishing some friendly interaction.

TIP: Why the scarf? Women appreciate men who notice the little things; it also keeps you from saying, “wow, great body”.

The next time the two of you are on the elevator, the ice is already broken and you can take the conversation up a notch. A notch guys, not the whole enchilada, we’re still setting the stage for future encounters. Regarding same, go slow, take your time and build some trust. To her you’re simply the ‘elevator guy’ and she’s probably wondering just what your game is.

So what’s next? Here’s one I used successfully, tailor it for your own use. Knowing I had a good chance of an elevator encounter on one morning, instead of buying one coffee, I bought two. Can you guess who the second one was for? Yeah, bet you can. I simply handed her the cup (complete with a cup holder, stir stick, cream and sugar on the side) with a smile and a wish for a good day. Next morning while I was buying coffee, I found her in line next to me. At that point the conversation was easy.

The idea here was to step past her boundaries over a cup of coffee. I didn’t segue (not immediately) into a weekend in the country, but was now able to talk with her as a friend. Since we seemed to have something in common, it was easy to make an after-work (mini) date for another cup of java.

This might be even easier if there’s a common break room or eatery in the building. Suggest lunch, or when you see her eating with friend, simply catch her eye, throw on a smile, slip her a compliment then be on your way. If she asks you to sit down, great, if not, don’t take it as a put-down, she’s simply lunching with co-workers.

The idea here is to move slowly, but decisively. When you first walk onto that elevator, don’t hem and haw, you only have moments for that first GOOD impression, don’t waste it.