Lame Lines and The Art Of Meeting Women

So there she is, a real beauty, she’s by herself and you probably have this ONE opportunity to get her number. Can you do it? Should you do it?

Its normal to feel butterflies, the question is, can you overcome the doubts, ‘man up’ and ask for her number? Quick the clock is ticking, are you going to make your move or AGAIN let opportunity slip through your fingers. Your choice, but remember “Carpe Diem” SEIZE THE DAY.

Okay, it’s not the easiest thing in the world, and most guys haven’t a clue how to (successfully) approach a woman on the street, in a library, at the mall, in the supermarket, etc. Hey, it’s not a single’s bar you might get shot down, plus there’s no (ego enhancing) alcohol nearby (if you have a flask in your pocket, you’ve got other problems).

Over the years, I’ve had my share of success and failure with the ladies. But often, the most beautiful women, the ones I’ve shared my soul with, were not hanging out at the local pub, the encounters were purely chance. And if I hadn’t taken a chance, it’s likely the opportunity would not have come again.

But taking that chance without a plan in mind is akin to not taking it at all. What do I mean? Simply that the situation is delicate, and she might wonder why a total stranger is approaching her at the mall or market. She’ll be wondering if you’re a pervert, preacher or salesman. Fending you off, not grabbing coffee, will be her first inclination.

While you might have the most honorable intentions, she doesn’t know that, so make your approach easy and slow, mix in some humor, a sincere compliment, then “go for the gold”.

The direct approach is usually best. The lame line… “I’ve lost my number, can I have yours”, only works in your dreams, and even then you need to notch up your dreams. Give credit where credit is due, if you approach her, she knows what’s coming, so be direct. She might say no, but she’ll know you’re direct and honest, and who knows, maybe she has a friend.

This isn’t the time to practice your lingo in front of a mirror, but before you walk up, have a thought in mind. Will you be asking her opinion on something, complementing her on an excellent choice or the perfect article of clothing? Whatever your decision, make it friendly, honest and sincere.

DO NOT eyeball her body. You already saw her at a distance and thought “WOW”. Now’s the time for eye contact, if you get her number, you can fantasize later.

Do some intel. If she’s in a good mood, talking and laughing, then she may respond in kind, so plan accordingly. On the flip side, if she’s quiet and introspective, your approach should be tailored to the mood of the moment. The idea is to make her feel comfortable, not wondering if you’re a stalker.

Lines are lame. Unless you have something truly unique, they’ve probably heard it and you’ll be branding yourself as another loser looking to score.

Sincerity, humor and honesty rate high on the scale of what women want.